Using lube is perfectly normal When it comes to sex, no matter what you enjoy, you can usually play by the rule: the wetter the better. This logic works, well… fluidly when it comes to lube because wetter is exactly what you’re getting.
And if you associate lube with vaginal dryness only, it’s time to step out of the box. Instead think less friction, smoother skin, and all around better sex — no matter your gender, age, or stage in life.
1) Water-based: Known as the “versatile” lube, water-based lubes can be used in practically any activity you can think up, even ones involving silicone toys or condoms — both latex and non-latex, it also may decrease the risk of condom breakage. This type of lube is most popular for three reasons: it won’t stain your sheets, it’s easy on the skin, and it washes off easily in water. But if you’ve got really sensitive skin…
2) Silicone-based …which is like silk sheets on your sensitive parts. Since silicone is hypoallergenic, most people won’t experience a reaction. This type of lubes also lasts longer. The only downside? The silicone in your lube can deteriorate the surface of silicone toys and cause them to become less sanitary because it creates abrasions in the silicone where bacteria can grow. “If you share sex toys,” she reminds us, “or use them with more than one partner, make sure to use water-based lubricant when playing with toys to ensure your safety.” Fortunately, silicone-based lubes are safe to use with condoms.
3) Oil-based lubricants last a long time so if you can’t be bothered with reapplying, this lube is for you. Pro tip? Oil-based lubes can double for sexy and fun massage time. But... this type of lube increases the chances of a ripped or torn condom, defeating the condom’s purpose — and your good time in the process. Oil-based lubricants are also associated with higher rates of bacterial vaginosis. Oil tends to stain sheets and clothing, and can also be difficult to clean up.
4) Natural lube Worried about exactly what ingredients you’re putting down there? Look for products that have both natural and a small number of ingredients on their list. Coconut oil is a popular choice as well, though it’s got its downsides. It can stain your sheets and increase incidence of condom breakage, as oils break down the efficacy of the latex.
How to lube-up the right way We kid, there’s no “right” way to use lube. So apply as much as you want, where you need it — be it the vagina, penis, or anus. After you’ve figured out which lube is best for you, you might want to warm it up a little bit in your hands. This isn’t necessary, but lube can be a little cold on your nether regions if you skip this step.
If you’re using a condom, don’t forget to apply a non-oil based lube to the outside! No matter if you use condoms, diaphragms, or dental dams, lube can help reduce friction and make sex more pleasurable for you and your partner. And no matter your reasons for using lube, remember — it’s a simple and fun way to take your sex life to the next level. So go forth, and lube up!
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